Abuser Magnet or Victim Mentality?
Have any of you ever felt like an abuser magnet or someone who just draws abusive men or women to you? Have you ever felt like you had “sucker” written across your forehead? You see, these abusive men and women are manipulating, deceiving, and controlling. They know what characteristics to watch for in people to identify those who can be their next victim. I picture them like a spider weaving a huge spider web. They are predatory and bait unsuspecting victims into their traps.
These predators know where to look for their next unsuspecting victim depending on what they want whether at bars, internet dating, singles groups, etc. They also know what to look for… Some look for the women who appear to have low self-esteem and /or lack of self-confidence. Each time any of us are mistreated or abused, it causes more wounds and causes our self-esteem and self-confidence to take another downward plunge. Our damaged self-image is obvious to these abusive people who prey on others. They identify those who they can sweet-talk and sugar-coat their words to draw them into their traps. It is a vicious cycle that keeps continuing until we overcome our victim mentality and become victorious. Some of the traits that they look for is “sweet”, “kind”, “innocent”, and “naive”. Now you may ask how I know this… Well because these are the words that my ex used to describe me and his next wife when he told me that she was just like me. He had found his next victim…
I encourage all who have been victims to heal before allowing anther person into your life. When we are wounded, we look through distorted eyes. But when we are whole and self-confident, we look with clear vision. You may be surprised how different the view is when your vision is clear…
And I can also tell you that God heals and God restores. He has plans for each of our lives that are for good, not for harm… to give us a future and a hope. God does not want any of us abused or misused. Seek Him and allow Him to guide your path into your future.
Dear Lord, I pray for healing and restoration of all victims of abuse. I pray that all captives will be set free from the strongholds that keep them in bondage, whether victims or those who abuse. Turn hearts to You, Lord and let them see Your Light shine and guide them out of the darkness… in Jesus’ Name. Amen
by Secret Angel of Secret Angel Ministry and The Abuse Expose’ with Secret Angel