“MAYBE I DESERVED IT!”
is one of the first thoughts that comes to victims’ minds.
The answer is NO!!
No one… no man, woman, or child… deserves to be abused.
No one deserves to be hit or punched!
No one deserves to be beat or bruised!
No one deserves to be bit or cut!
No one deserves to be tied up!
No one deserves to be threatened!
No one deserves to be raped!
No one deserves to face uncontrolled rage!
No one deserves to be held in any bondage!
No one deserves to be assaulted!
Not physically or verbally assaulted!
Nor sexually or emotionally assaulted!
NO ONE DESERVES TO BE ABUSED IN ANY WAY!!
Now, those who have never lived in abusive situations may ask another question..
“How can this be?”
Well, now I will shed some light on this question…
If you grew up in a Spanish speaking home,
didn’t you think everyone spoke Spanish.
If you grew up eating only vegetables,
didn’t you think it was normal on everyone’s table.
If you grew up on a farm,
were you not familiar with “farm-life”.
If you grew up traveling the world,
wouldn’t you think that most people traveled the world.
If you grew up being treated like royalty,
wouldn’t you think that it was normal to be treated royal.
So, what do you think happens when people are criticized constantly and surrounded by negativity…
What do you think happens when they are told that they are nothing and constantly being blamed for things that are not their fault…
Well, then they don’t expect any better than what they have lived with.
They don’t expect any positive because they have been surrounded by negative.
This causes them to fall victim to the many abuses of the world…
because they don’t expect better.
Now, this is why they can even get the thought,
“Maybe I deserved it!”
I pray for every victim of these abuses…
I pray that eyes will be opened and parents will raise their children positively, expecting the best in life. I pray that victims will realize that they deserve better and that doors will be opened that every victim will find a way out of their abusive situations.
I pray that wounded hearts will be healed around the world…
in Jesus’ name. Amen
by Secret Angel of Secret Angel Ministry and The Abuse Expose’ with Secret Angel
http://www.secretangelps911.wordpress.com and http://www.secretangelministry.org
Let me start out by giving you a definition of HOPE…
Wishing that something would happen.
A feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to change.
To want something to happen or be the case.
Synonyms of hope are expectation, trust, promise, expect, anticipate.
I have learned through all of my abuses in this world including my marriage and my workplace, to never give up HOPE. Even if there was just a thread of hope that I could see as I was being abused, I held onto it. I did not know why, but just did and cried out for God to change my situation…and He eventually did.
I wished that something would happen. I desired for something better and to change my situation. I expected something to change or happen. I cried out to God continually…and He answered my prayers. But not in the way that I wanted!
You see, I had wanted what I wanted… I wanted my husband to change. I wanted him to stop being abusive. I finally had to release everything to Him. I finally had to say to God, “Thy will be done.” I had to learn to TRUST God! In my total brokenness, I had to let go of my husband and only hold onto God. I still hoped for better, but I quit defining what better was. Then I started seeing little by little what God was doing in my life. My faith was restored as I trusted the Lord and my life took on a different path that I had never planned… but God had had a different plan.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
NO MATTER WHAT WE GO THROUGH IN THIS WORLD, HANG ONTO HOPE…AND HANG ONTO GOD. TRUST HIM FOR ONLY HE KNOWS THE FUTURE!!
by Secret Angel of Secret Angel Ministry and The Abuse Expose’ with Secret Angel
The subject that I am supposed to address again today is FEAR.
I have written Part 1, “FEAR, PTSD, and the Abused Women”. Then it continued so I wrote Part 2 which is Fight or Flight.
So, here I go with part #3, “FEAR NO MORE”–
If anyone would have told me this, FEAR NO MORE!, I would have thought that they were absolutely CRAZY!!! How can you let go of a fear so strong that it absolutely consumes you? How can you get over the pain and suffering that contributed to the fear? Now, some may think that I am CRAZY, but I can only tell you from my own experiences– WE CAN DO NOTHING ON OUR OWN… BUT WE CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS US!! and, by the way, I am not crazy!!
The Bible tells us:
“Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.’ (Isaiah 41:10 NKJV)
I did not believe this until I experienced it. I will share with you one of my favorite worship songs. It is by Jason Upton and it’s called “IN YOUR PRESENCE.” I have found this Presence, and I can tell you that in that Place of HIS PRESENCE, ALL FEAR IS GONE!! I ask you to close your eyes and listen to this awesome song and think of the possibilities when you find this place….
Now, I am being painfully honest, revealing my secret to where I am today. This song explains exactly where I am now. I have heard Him tell me that “EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE OK!” I have felt that Presence that is indescribable, like another realm not of this earth…All of HIS Promises are available…..
I PRAY THAT EACH OF YOU, EACH VICTIM OF ABUSE, AND EACH PERSON IN NEED OF SOMETHING BETTER WILL ALL FIND IT TOO!! IT’S AVAILABLE FOR THE ASKING… LORD, REVEAL YOURSELF IN A MIGHTY MOVE OF YOUR SPIRIT ACROSS THIS WORLD TO SET THE CAPTIVES FREE AND BRING HEALING TO ALL, IN JESUS’ NAME… AMEN.
by Secret Angel of Secret Angel Ministry and The Abuse Expose’ with Secret Angel
The question was asked today, “Who is your reader?” Well, it depends… If anyone would have told me over a year ago that I would have written a book, started a blog, written a song, and started a ministry, I would have thought that they had a serious case of mistaken identity. But so much can change in a split second. We don’t know what the future holds for each of us. So, as I wonder about this question, “Who is your reader?”, I just know that most of what I write about is abuse and the One who rescued me from abuse. The “readers” are whoever the Lord leads to it.
Like many, I have been a victim of abuse. I have endured verbal, emotional, physical, psychological, sexual, spiritual, financial, economic, and workplace abuses. I have been broken like a million pieces of me scattered all over the floor. I understand how these victims feel and I have also experienced God’s Love as He put me back together… He wants to do the same for many more.
I know that God is the reason that I write and I know He brings the readers. Because, I follow what He tells me to do and He tells me to write. He told me to write the book, “The Walking Wounded”. He sang a song to me and I wrote it down, entitled “Walking Wounded”. Then He brought Diana into my life to record it. I started a ministry, Secret Angel Ministry, to reach out to victims of abuse, and then He had me start this blog, The Abuse Expose’ with Secret Angel. So, even though I was not a writer, I guess I write because God tells me to and “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”, Philippians 4:13. God also told me as I was writing the book that “My tongue is the pen of a ready writer” Psalm 45:1…. So, He speaks to me and I write… and I trust Him to bring the readers that He wants to see it.
One day a man saw an old lady, stranded on the side of the road, but even in the dim light of day, he could see she needed help. So he pulled up in front of her Mercedes and got out. His Pontiac was still sputtering when he approached her.
Even with the smile on his face, she was worried. No one had stopped to help for the last hour or so. Was he going to hurt her? He didn’t look safe; he looked poor and hungry. He could see that she was frightened, standing out there in the cold. He knew how she felt. It was those chills which only fear can put in you. He said, “I’m here to help you, ma’am. Why don’t you wait in the car where it’s warm? By the way, my name is Bryan Anderson.”
Well, all she had was a flat tire, but for an old lady, that was bad enough. Bryan crawled under the car looking for a place to put the jack, skinning his knuckles a time or two. Soon he was able to change the tire. But he had to get dirty and his hands hurt.
As he was tightening up the lug nuts, she rolled down the window and began to talk to him. She told him that she was from St. Louis and was only just passing through. She couldn’t thank him enough for coming to her aid.
Bryan just smiled as he closed her trunk. The lady asked how much she owed him. Any amount would have been all right with her. She already imagined all the awful things that could have happened had he not stopped. Bryan never thought twice about being paid. This was not a job to him. This was helping someone in need, and God knows there were plenty, who had given him a hand in the past. He had lived his whole life that way, and it never occurred to him to act any other way.
He told her that if she really wanted to pay him back, the next time she saw someone who needed help, she could give that person the assistance they needed, and Bryan added, “And think of me.”
He waited until she started her car and drove off. It had been a cold and depressing day, but he felt good as he headed for home, disappearing into the twilight.
A few miles down the road the lady saw a small cafe. She went in to grab a bite to eat, and take the chill off before she made the last leg of her trip home. It was a dingy looking restaurant. Outside were two old gas pumps. The whole scene was unfamiliar to her. The waitress came over and brought a clean towel to wipe her wet hair. She had a sweet smile, one that even being on her feet for the whole day couldn’t erase. The lady noticed the waitress was nearly eight months pregnant, but she never let the strain and aches change her attitude. The old lady wondered how someone who had so little could be so giving to a stranger. Then she remembered Bryan.
After the lady finished her meal, she paid with a hundred dollar bill. The waitress quickly went to get change for her hundred dollar bill, but the old lady had slipped right out the door. She was gone by the time the waitress came back. The waitress wondered where the lady could be. Then she noticed something written on the napkin.
There were tears in her eyes when she read what the lady wrote: “You don’t owe me anything. I have been there too. Somebody once helped me out, the way I’m helping you. If you really want to pay me back, here is what you do, do not let this chain of love end with you.” Under the napkin were four more $100 bills.
Well, there were tables to clear, sugar bowls to fill, and people to serve, but the waitress made it through another day. That night when she got home from work and climbed into bed, she was thinking about the money and what the lady had written. How could the lady have known how much she and her husband needed it? With the baby due next month, it was going to be hard… She knew how worried her husband was, and as he lay sleeping next to her, she gave him a soft kiss and whispered soft and low, “Everything’s going to be all right. I love you, Bryan Anderson.”
There is an old saying “What goes around comes around.”
The Walking Wounded: The Path from Brokenness to Wholeness
by Secret Angel
is officially released!!
My NEW BOOK, The Walking Wounded: The Path from Brokenness to Wholeness, is released and now available for eBook download. I have been waiting for a very long time to share my new book with you. The Walking Wounded is NOW available as an eBook just in time for Christmas. Pre-orders are also now being taken for the soft cover version of The Walking Wounded.
The Walking Wounded was written to help victims of abuse find strength and hope in a hopeless situation. As a former victim, I have written this book as Secret Angel, representing the many nameless and faceless victims of abuse. No one can understand that feeling of being trapped and that feeling of hopelessness–unless they have lived it. Many people cannot understand how this can happen, but victims never choose to be abused. They never want to be victims. They never want to live in fear. Through my book, many readers will be able to understand more about abuse and its victims. The Walking Wounded will encourage the many other “nameless and faceless” victims of abuse to find the strength to reach for their freedom and to overcome the abuses of their pasts.
Please… Go online today and get your eBook copy or pre-order your book at The Walking Wounded Website:
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. See His will in all you do, and He will direct your paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6 (NLT)
I want to thank all of you for your interest in “The Walking Wounded” and pray that many more victims will find that “Path from Brokenness to Wholeness”. It is a path that has led me to overcoming the abuses of this world, and it is a path available to many more of you…
******Endorsement from Delores Winder:
“This book is a great source of life for many people. It tells you that you are not alone in your struggles. If Angel’s family can be free and healed, so can you! Turn to the Lord as they did! Let Him give you the strength! Trust in Him and He will bring you through. Remember, you can do all things and live because of him. I pray you will receive all the hope and blessings this book can bring you!”
– Delores Winder of the Bill and Delores Winder Ministry
Co-Author of Surprised by Healing, the story of Delores Winder’s
Miraculous healing and “One of the Greatest Healing Miracles
of the 20th Century” according to Sid Roth.
The Walking Wounded Website.
Walking Wounded, the song.
One of the big problems with verbal and emotional abuse is that it is progressive. It happens mildly, jokingly, and infrequently at first and then it increases. It becomes more frequent and more severe, with moments of explosiveness. The explosive phases are followed by honeymoon phases where the abuser is apologetic and loving. This cycle continues and many victims become so accustomed to the verbal and emotional attacks that it sadly becomes acceptable. Their self-esteem gets lower and lower. This is exactly what happened to me…
Years of emotional, verbal, and other abuses led me to not expect any better for my life. I had always hoped for the best—but settled for much less. Even though many family members and friends saw the abuse, “abuse” was an unspoken word. Also, I did not even identify it as abuse. I accepted it as part of married life. I had vowed “for better or worse…for richer or poorer” and I was determined to do everything possible to make my husband happy, despite his abuses which included several adulterous affairs. I believed that marriage was forever. I did not realize that God does not expect you to live in those situations. God does not want you to be abused, and He allows for divorce in cases of adultery. The following scriptures refer to these situations…
“I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife (or her husband), except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman (or man) commits adultery.” (Matthew 19:9 NLT)
“Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.” (Colossians 3:19 NLT)
God did not make my husband abuse me or commit adultery. However, when my marriage fell apart, God orchestrated my steps as I leaned on Him to put the broken pieces of my heart and my entire life back together. He once spoke to me audibly. He answered my questions and made His Presence known in multiple ways. He told me that He had “rescued me from Egypt.” I then realized, that I did not even know that I was in “Egypt” or even needed “rescuing.” I had accepted my abusive situation…but God did not. God rescued me!!! And, what He did for me, He will do for others…
Prayer: Lord, I pray that you will rescue victims all around the world, deliver them from their bondage and bring healing and restoration to all in Jesus’ name. Amen.
By Secret Angel of Secret Angel Ministry and The Abuse Expose’ with Secret Angel
http://secretangelps911.wordpress.com/ and http://www.secretangelministry.org
‘…Ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be full.’ John 16:24 NKJV
If your prayers are not being answered, ask yourself: (1) How is my relationship with the Lord? ‘If I regard wickedness in my heart, the Lord will not hear.’ (Psalm 66:18 NAS) Anything that adversely affects your relationship with God also affects your prayers. Friendship gives you favour; intimacy gives you access. Jesus said, ‘If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you.’ (John 15:7 NKJV) (2) How strong is my faith? ‘Without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is… a rewarder for those who diligently seek Him.’ (Hebrews 11:6 NKJV) Notice three words: (a) ‘Believe.’ God’s deepest longing is to be believed, regardless of emotion or circumstance. (b) ‘Diligently.’
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